Real Healing.
Real Becoming.

MY STORY

Raw. Unfiltered. Authentic.

My story hasn't always been easy, but it's mine. Every chapter I've lived has taught me something, pushed me, changed me, and reminded me that I'm still becoming the woman I'm meant to be.

Writing has become the way I honour that journey — raw, real, and honest.

"I'm not perfect, but I'm authentic.
I'm learning, growing, rising.
And I'm finally telling my story in my own words.

This is only the beginning."

FROM THE BLOG

Thoughts. Lessons. Real Life.

My BOOK

My debut book - "I WAS ALWAYS BECOMING", is a memoir on rising from brokenness and finding my own rongoa.

A sneak peak

This is the story of the girl I once was — and the woman I was always becoming. It’s about trauma, resilience, and the kind of love that both wounds and heals. It’s about finding strength in the moments you least expect it, and learning that survival can be the quietest kind of courage.

Raw, unfiltered, and deeply honest, this memoir lays bare the truth of growing up too fast, carrying too much, and discovering, against all odds, that even in the darkest chapters, there is strength to rise again.

I Was Always Becoming

ABOUT ME

Kia ora, my name is Pauline Dunn Muriwai-Gray. I’m a proud wāhine Māori, a wife, and a mama to five beautiful tamariki who are my greatest teachers and my biggest reason to keep going. Each and one of Tamariki have came at the right time in life without knowing then but looking at them now they healed me in ways I didn’t know needed healing.

MY JOURNEY

I was born in New Zealand Aotearoa and raised in Australia. I had to learn how to adapt, how to belong, and how to hold on to my identity through it all. My life has been a mix of laughter and loss, love and heartbreak, strength and silence.
I’ve faced trauma, grief, and challenges that tested me to my core. I’ve lost people I loved deeply, I’ve lived through years of pain and survival, and I’ve also discovered the quiet courage it takes to keep moving forward.
Becoming a mother at a young age wasn’t easy, but it gave me purpose, strength, and a reason to fight when I felt like giving up.

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